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KINGFISHER THERAPY: DIVE DEEP TO FLY HIGH
Given the choice, many of us avoid change. Even if we are suffering, we privilege stability, cozying up to the familiar even when it is no longer serving us.
Given the choice, many of us avoid change. Even if we are suffering, we privilege stability, cozying up to the familiar even when it is no longer serving us.
Empowering you to reach new heights — personally and in your relationships
KFT We may cling to ways that we have coped historically that are in fact hurting us now. We might find ourselves continuing to return to situations that do not make us feel whole, but rather denigrate our self-worth. We may be too frighted to voice our resistance in the face of adversity, choosing time and time again to settle because we fear we are irrevocably damaged. Or, most insidious, we might downplay our own pain, our own humanity, diminishing the hurt we feel in order to survive or fit in. Left out of control, this devaluing of self creeps into every aspect of life, reeking havoc in its wake.
For too long “mental health” was synonymous with a deficit: something that through either genetics or personal failure was an unchangeable part of a person’s identity. While we have evolved in our thinking as a profession and as society, these stigmas run deep in the lore of therapy. It creates a power imbalance between therapist and client that continues the chronicle that those who are struggling require saving through a miracle cure. No wonder many people are still wary of therapy.
KFT We may cling to ways that we have coped historically that are in fact hurting us now. We might find ourselves continuing to return to situations that do not make us feel whole, but rather denigrate our self-worth. We may be too frighted to voice our resistance in the face of adversity, choosing time and time again to settle because we fear we are irrevocably damaged. Or, most insidious, we might downplay our own pain, our own humanity, diminishing the hurt we feel in order to survive or fit in. Left out of control, this devaluing of self creeps into every aspect of life, reeking havoc in its wake.
For too long “mental health” was synonymous with a deficit: something that through either genetics or personal failure was an unchangeable part of a person’s identity. While we have evolved in our thinking as a profession and as society, these stigmas run deep in the lore of therapy. It creates a power imbalance between therapist and client that continues the chronicle that those who are struggling require saving through a miracle cure. No wonder many people are still wary of therapy.
Individual Psychotherapy
Individual Psychotherapy
Whether suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, anger or something more specific, many still personalize their experience until they find it difficult to separate the illness from the individual. Working from a trauma informed approach allows us to reframe a diagnosis as something completely bad to an attempt at our system to regulate and heal from pain. The recognition of how the past affects our present, taps back into the complexity of families of origin as well as formative friendship, making connections that allow us to better recognize patterns in the present.
As we begin to notice patterns in those behaviors, we might become curious, and eventually even dare to question the narratives which taught by our caregivers and peers (often reinforced by larger society). This externalization process helps us see the problems outside of ourselves. By breaking free of these stories, we have enough distance to shift you into the rightful role of the protagonist. Remolding these broken parts of ourselves, solidifies our multifaceted identities, recognizing the complexity of who we are: human.
Individual Psychotherapy
Now, if this all feels a bit doom and gloom, don’t fear. We’ll try to have some fun as well. The connection between therapist and client is one that is infused with trust and care, a belief not to be taken for granted. Through collaboration and kindness, we will build a way of relating to one another that hopefully makes you feel safe enough to be curious and empowered to explore. Remember Dorothy in “The Wizard of Oz”? The man behind the curtain was not all-knowing after all, and neither was that tricky witch Glinda who sent Dorothy on her quest. Dorothy’s power resided in herself and in her relationships.
Individual Psychotherapy
Now, if this all feels a bit doom and gloom, don’t fear. We’ll try to have some fun as well. The connection between therapist and client is one that is infused with trust and care, a belief not to be taken for granted. Through collaboration and kindness, we will build a way of relating to one another that hopefully makes you feel safe enough to be curious and empowered to explore. Remember Dorothy in “The Wizard of Oz”? The man behind the curtain was not all-knowing after all, and neither was that tricky witch Glinda who sent Dorothy on her quest. Dorothy’s power resided in herself and in her relationships.
Amos Wolff, LMFT
LGBTQ+ Affirming –
Harm Reduction Practitioner, Sex Therapy Trained
Whether this is your first time in therapy or another chapter on your quest for fulfillment, I am dedicated to meeting you where you are.
Ben Sheff
Associate Therapist, MFT-LP
Person-centered, Trauma-informed, LGBTQIA+ affirming
Looking inward creates the opportunity to see yourself and your relationships through a new lens of compassion and care.
Josh Chan
Therapist In Training
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I am committed to building a safe, inclusive therapeutic relationship where we can celebrate all of your unique identities & strengths.
Skyler Okey
Therapist In Training
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With an emphasis on emotionally focused attachment, I can help you identify the impact significant relationships in your past have on your present behavior and beliefs.
Sara Kate Gillingham
Starting May 15th!
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Amos Wolff, LMFT
LGBTQ+ Affirming –
Harm Reduction Practitioner, Sex Therapy Trained
Whether this is your first time in therapy or another chapter on your quest for fulfillment, I am dedicated to meeting you where you are.
Josh Chan
Therapist In Training
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I am committed to building a safe, inclusive therapeutic relationship where you can feel heard, accepted, and celebrated with all of your unique identities and strengths.
Ben Sheff
The diversity of my passions, both in the city and outside it, has taught me firsthand the difficulty of balancing passion and responsibility.
Skyler Okey
Therapist In Training
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With an emphasis on emotionally focused attachment, I can help you identify the impact significant relationships in your past have on your present behavior and beliefs.
Sara Kate Gillingham
Therapist In Training
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After a twenty-year writing career, I felt called to become a psychotherapist to help people integrate their lives with their truth, something too often splintered by societal pressures.